Monthly Archives: September 2009


Define it!!!

Below is just an extract of what I learned and wrote back to someone… Just to share this with myself again, made some changes and putting it down here…

I am not good at this, but I will try to let you understand what is the purpose of my this write up, which eventually is nothing, I know… But sometimes you feel very good doing things without purpose, without directions, to just go with the flow. While reading this, you may be finding me illogical sometimes, sometimes of your kind, sometimes practical, sometime emotional and sometimes very sensitive. Couple of things only one can let you understand in person, not by emails, not on calls, not by blogs etc… But its a good tech world now to throw out the things online and let everyone comment on it… good/bad, anything…

One fine evening, I got a beautiful explanation and definition of love, and I felt to give a big time hug to the person who put the words together, which were inside me, but scattered. There are many philosophies around the world about this four letter word, however, you need to feel comfortable and convinced about one particular thought on its definition which people has given it. No doubt in my statement that ‘that person’s’ theory and definition of love touched me and I was convinced, still I am, nothing can change that throughout my life. Three types I had been told… One is Obsession, which sucks your blood, turns painful. Second, which grooms you in all the ways, which figure out all the positive energies inside you, you bloom in that. Third one, in which you leave the person you love, as it is, even if s/he wants to go, or have to leave you due to anything. I am still in between the sea of all these three thoughts that what kind of love I have oe feel. I am sure about one fact, I love, without any second thought, but when it comes to ‘type’ of it, I am blank, void and confused to bound my kind of love for someone in any ‘type’ or definition.

There are many things in your life you have to do; even you don’t wish to do. Situations, reasons… Our life always sits on a bench of uncertainty; we never know what lies in the next second and what we will be doing for that uncertain action.

First kind: If you would be forcing someone to stick to yourself because of the reason ‘You love someone’, thats first kind of love, blood sucking, love which bother… that’s being like punishing yourself, and the other person too. What you would be doing with a machine… machine means a person with no feelings, or partial feeling for you…? The dirtiest sin is to kill your soul to do something or to accomplish something… Vikas, my best friend just reminded me that…

Second kind: If you really in love of this kind… with open heart and open arms, it’s a blessing altogether. Blessing for you and to other person that you met, things happened and you bloom… you bloom in a way that you can’t be better than this… in past, in present, in future. It push you to figure out your capabilities… all your possibilities… all your strength become centralized… however, this phase only comes after certain time you have with someone… not just due to attraction, not just because of infatuation. It comes first with the ‘magic’ feeling, feeling of being together throughout the lifetime, through understanding each other in all the ways, respect for the decisions of each other. After sometime, then you will find that gradually you groomed, you groomed while you were spending the time… while talking, while exchanging the ideas, views.

Third kind: Most painful, though, still unfolds some happiness and satisfaction feeling. You need to some just let go… due to anything… Anything means due to situation, may be the other person don’t feel the same way you feel for her/him, may be both of them come to know this that there is always next time and next life for them and not this… reason can be anything, but must be justified. May be, after some time, you will be having a smile on your face while thinking about that decision of being departed, being together in next life and next time… But issue with this third kind is, you hardly find yourself convinced about this. You should be having a very strong ‘selfless’ thinking behind, a very strong force of being a part o a larger world, a part of a universe which has no limitations, a sort of being saint… saint of your own kind…

I want to talk something about the word ‘magic’… How can we skip this if we are talking about ‘Love’… This love and magic have nothing uncommon according to me… both in some sense are the same… Don’t forget to watch ‘Sleepless in Seattle’ for this word… ‘Magic’… Being yourself… Being in ‘Magic’… There is no harm to think about yourself and to think what you want and to get it done. At first, giving begins to you, yourself. If you are not happy, how you can make others happy and can be a reason for anyone’s smile? If you are not satisfied, if you are not getting what you wish for, how you can be the reason behind someone’s satisfaction and happiness? Isn’t it like killing yourself for some other person? And how long you will be able to do that? At some point, you are cheating yourself, pretending, cheating everyone. This will not be long lasting… can’t be. Magic is really a magical thing. Someone said it right, you don’t know what you are missing until you taste it. If you can’t be a living thing for yourself, full of happiness, joy, and full of life, you can’t make the things for others…

Something to say… “You are not wrong when you think about yourself… it’s as important as to eat something… as necessary as to have oxygen and water…!”

Pray…!!!
Love & Faith…!!!
Everything will be alright… just believe in Him…!!!

God bless… 🙂